How To Uprightly Court A Lady?

Courtship is one of the most exciting phase of a romantic relationship. How is this done right? The author suggests 17 tips for gentlemen on how to court a lady the Christian way.

Introduction

Boy meets girl scenario takes place during teenage life and adulthood alike. In a marvelous world of Christians, naturally a boy or a grown up man may experience an intense passing infatuation for a girl or a lady, or fall in love with a girl or a lady.

Approximately on statistical average and norms, it’s typically normal for teens or single adults alike to have a crush on someone. The person of interest may be a schoolmate or someone in the neighborhood, a family friend or coworker, just anybody in particular, or a star celebrity.

The norms before in the golden era is for teens to have a crush or liking for star artists Tom Cruise, Keanu Reeves, Pierce Brosnan, Lee Min Ho, Aga Muhlach, Gary V, Alice Dixon, Carmina Villaroel, Angelina Jolie, Julia Roberts, Jennifer Garner and Sandra Bullock.

To date, topnotchers list include Selena Gomez, Kpop BTS, Rhian Ramos, Maja Salvador, Xian Lim, Alden Richards, Richard Yap, Blake Shelton the county musician and Voice coach. With Justin Bieber on the lead as #1, Spotify artist with 92 M listeners. Taylor Swift was #1 female artist with multiple wins in 2013, 2015, 2018 and 2021. Then there’s Spiderman, Tom Holland and Andrew Garfield, but the original Tobey Maguire was the best Peter Parker.

Hence, how do you discern if it’s a strong affection, love or just a simple plain crush? Teenage crush is a normal feeling when you experience an intense and usually just passing infatuation that may eventually fade in the long run. It’s when you feel happy seeing and casually talking to that person.

Whilst love is a feeling of foolish, strong affection or liking for someone. A feeling that accompanies special attention to someone, thus you get bemused and enthralled and concerned for that someone based in admiration, benevolence and common interests.

Thus, to seek the affection or attention of your love and win her heart, courting emerges. You conduct your attention to pursue winning her heart forever.

If you’re the man, how then should you properly court a lady? The following section offers 17 tips to serve as your guide.

How To Court A Lady?

Here are 17 suggested tips on how to court a lady:

1. Befriend her. Friendship as a favorable foundation for a stronger relationship, a foundation suggestive of a happy romantic partnership and the most important predictor of maintaining a long-lasting relationship.
2. Ask her out on a date nicely. Make a typically ordinary yet romantic social arrangement to meet and have a date with her. Ideally, a first date would be to meet over a cup of coffee and build a casual rapport. Second date over lunch is a getting to know you stage.
3. Spend quality time with her on weekends as there is no office by then, say on Sunday’s Service and grow together in the LORD.
4. Greet her every morning via text or a quick call to show your state of emotions or feelings, care, and thoughtfulness. This implies serious consideration that you’re thinking of her before going on with your ordinary day. And that you have her in your thoughts.
5. Send her three (3) red roses or any flowers with a personalised note, or chocolates with a love letter. Say something that comes from the heart. It doesn’t need to be tediously long or complex as long as it’s written by you and she’ll gonna simply love it. Flowers make a lovely gift which ladies definitely get to appreciate. Buying at the market is less expensive than in malls. Three red roses will just cost you PhP30, not bad for thrifting and budget friendly for the teenage and adult pockets alike.
6. Sometimes ladies love occasional surprises. Serenade her on her birthday. Express yourself in a love letter with a small stuffed toy on Valentines, write her a song or a poem on thanksgiving day with a scarf. Help her out on DIY or chores. Whatever you do, personalize the gifts you give her as much as possible.
7. Visit historical museums together. It communicates our heritage of humanity and man’s environment for both the education and enjoyment in addition.
8. Have a morning picnic together. Al fresco eating is actually a fun way to enjoy nature together. Time spent outdoors benefits our physical health condition, an excellent source of Vitamin D and calcium; good for sickly children with cough, asthma, allergy, osteoporosis ailment, difficulty in sleeping, and a lot more.
9. Engage in a hobby, join baking or theatre or dance classes or an organization together, church and religious organizations and activities, attend bible studies,prayer meetings and Sunday Services together. This strengthens the relationship and you become more compassionate, open-minded and grow faithful to the LORD.
10. Do some sports together. Play tennis, billiard or cycling together. Or hit the gym to break a sweat. Studies show that a regular physical activity can indeed produce happy hormones.
11. Give her an educational book. Anything that might be of a great interest to her. What does it mean when you give a book as a present? It simply implies you’re an awesome person for thinking of her when selecting it from the bookstore.
12. Pray and attend prayer meetings together. Doing so helps deal with stress, enables them to focus on shared beliefs, hopes and the future and allows you to deal with challenges in life constructively.
13. Listen to her. Don’t forget to give sincere compliments once in a while. Give her your full attention and support her excellent decisions. Talk about your goals in life. Keep a constant, open communication.
14. Properly court her at her home. Don’t be afraid to confess what you feel sincerely. Befriend her family, especially the parents. Treat each other with courtesy, sensitivity and respect.
15. Bake for her. Bring her some of your homemade cookies or homemade dish that you yourself have diligently prepared. Baking or cooking is a thoughtful gesture.
16. Prioritize her and why it’s important must be on top of your personal list if you want a long lasting healthy and sound relationship.
17. Accept her as she is. Treat her as an equal being from God.

Important Bible Verses on Courtship

1. Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flows the springs of life. (Proverbs 4: 23)
2. Let love be genuine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good. (Romans 12: 9)
3. Now concerning the things about which you wrote, it is good for a man not to touch a woman (1 Corinthians 7: 1).
4. Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership has righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness? What harmony is there between Christ and Belial? Or what has a believer in common with an unbeliever (2 Corinthians 6: 14-15)?

Ladies and gentlemen, the only relationship that will complete you is one with Christ… Pray also for God’s discernment.

I do hope these tips on how to court a lady will find its way to well-meaning Christian men out there.

References

1. How does courtship work? By the Institute in Basic Life Principles.
2. What is Biblical Courtship? Christian Today. Roxanne Kumalo

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